Bereavement

"Losing someone we love and care for is never easy, we hope we can help with advice and avoid the never ending search for answers from the afterlife"

"Whilst our mission here at CPI does not involve in any way endorsing a belief for or against the afterlife, our “sensitive” Ian – would like to share a few words on the afterlife and bereavement."

Hello Readers,

It’s never easy to cope with losing someone we love and care about, but it is however one thing that you can guarantee that will happen throughout life.  Its not an easy subject to talk about, a time of high energy and raw emotion – often leading to very low feelings of self esteem and pain.

For some however, It also then becomes a mission to “make contact” with their lost one.  It can become a life consuming mission and people can become so concerned with contacting the person they have lost – that they forget about the ones that are still living.

Personally I have heard many, many times people saying how they called out for a sign or a signal – time and time again – and that signal never came.  This can cause the person to sink into a depression asking “Why don’t they contact me” when the sign never comes.

Then there are those that believe everything that happens is a “sign” from their loved one, the flickering of a light or a picture falling from a wall.  Whilst I would never tell those people not to believe it is a sign (if that’s what makes them feel comfortable), I would like to say try and look into things. Don’t get drawn into living a life thinking everything is a sign from the passed over.  Whilst I whole heartedly believe some things are signs – people just need to be a little open minded as to what really could be happening.

It is times like these where many people seek a medium – someone who can “reach out” to their lost one and help them make contact.  Unfortunately, this is also a time when those people can be taken very much for a ride – and perhaps a little naïve.

I strongly believe there are many good mediums out there that do have an ability to contact the spirit of those passed over, however, there are also ones that will take someone who is very susceptible and take them for a long and fruitless ride.

When you’re searching for answers some people will take the smallest comment and turn it into something that the “medium could never have known that”.  I’ve witnessed this myself, I was once told by a medium “there’s a lady there, a little old lady, who loved to bake cakes and would often be in the kitchen”.  Some people might think “Oh that’s my nana” etc but if you think about it – it really could be anyone's nana!

Perhaps everyone reading this will have known some little old lady who loved to cook and has passed over.

Before consulting any medium, the person who has lost the loved one needs to come to terms properly with what has happened and try and heal.

The pain of losing a loved one never goes away, but in time you will see things more rationally and then should you decide to see a medium – then you will be able to take things based on rational thinking and not high emotion.

I would never want to tell people what they should or should not do, this was just to try and help those who are grieving to take time and not make the same mistakes so many other people have done.

Learn to live and cope after the passing before trying to make contact.

It is also worth remembering that even in the afterlife, many good mediums will tell you not to expect contact for a short while from the people who passed over – they have a new life to settle into as well!.

Remember the spirit is always with you and your loved one will only ever be gone in the physical world.  They will always be stood by your side as spirit and you will have their love eternally.

Talk about those people regularly – that is also a way of keeping their spirit alive in yourself and those who also share happy memories.

Someone once told me – “Life is a spiritual journey – this is just the physical part” – from spirit into a physical reality and then back to spirit – learning new things all the way.

I like to think of that whenever I lose someone special to me, and pray that one day I will be reunited with those I love.

… In the meantime, I also want to live my life – as they would have wanted me to – and not put my life forever on hold searching for something I may never find…..

God bless

Ian

The following links to external sites offer advice and help for coping with bereavement.  CPI does not accept liability or responsibility for any information/help obtained via these sites:

Coping With Grief: http://www.caringinfo.org/

Patient UK:  http://www.patient.co.uk/leaflets/bereavement_counseling.htm

Bereavement Helpline: www.thebereavementline.co.uk

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